Why is weight loss and maintaining a healthy weight an internal battle? This is the time of year when many fall off their New Year’s resolution to get in shape despite their best intentions. It is important to understand that an outer transformation requires an equal inner transformation. Here are a few tips to transform yourself from the inside out:
Develop a positive inner dialogue
The way you talk to yourself has a tremendous impact on your drive to get fit. Say you are overweight and having the body you want seems impossible. You instantly talk yourself out of even going for it by thinking you can’t achieve it so why bother. The truth is, the only limitation you have is self imposed.
Be wary of your inner critic, the little voice in your head that tells you, you can’t, you’ll never, you’re not strong enough, you’re not pretty enough, you’re not good enough etc. The only danger in having these thoughts is you believing them. When you have them, instantly discount them as lies. Because that is exactly what they are, lies. Fill your inner dialogue with positive, affirming messages such as: I can, I will, I chose to, I am willing to, I am always greater than I think. Pay attention to how you feel about what you tell yourself. You can feel the difference between I have to verses I
Do you compare yourself to other women by looking at what they have, who they’re with, or how they look? Does your sense of self-worth come from within or do you routinely seek approval from others? Are you a chronic people-pleaser always putting the needs of others above your own so you can maintain their approval?
These types of behaviors allow others to take advantage of you. They also can put you in an endless cycle of seeking validation from others. When you don’t get it, insecurity, fear and isolation can set in.
When you see anotherwoman who seems to have it all together, do you think she has something you don’t? You might be thinking “sure, if I looked like her, I would feel more cofident and my life would be much easier.” If you have thoughts like this, it’s time for a reality check. What you’re buying into is an illusion.
The reality is that those women have it all as a result of stellar self-confidence, hard work, intense focus on their goals, and not relying on being emotionally dependent on anyone else. They love who they are and what they do. They get into relationships that compliment them but they could just as easily be self-confident and self-sufficient alone.
Turn on your television for an hour or so I and you will most likely see a commercial for anti-depressants. They all have the message that if you’re feeling down, medicate it. Never mind actually dealing with the destructive thought processes that are driving your feelings of blue. Today it is estimated that one in four women are taking some form of anti-depressant or anti-anxiety medication.
You will also likely see commercials for fitness programs, products, and gym memberships. However , it seems as if most fitness programs and products are about first, obtaining a certain look, and second, about being healthy. At some point you might actually hear something about “feeling” better. I believe this is backwards. Exercise can help you feel better, good health and looks are the bi-products.
So, can exercise help you kick depression? It did for me, and I believe it can for you as well.
If you suffer from depression, get help and get moving. Find a qualified therapist to help you navigate through your negative thought processes. Get moving physically to get those endorphins pumping you’ll become healthier mentally and physically.
A life filled with love and joy are there for you. Get moving and go get it.